This whole experience has been similar to looking at your children from a different perspective. I know my kids better than anyone else on this earth. I know how they handle happiness, sadness, disappointment, triumph. I know their struggles and their strengths. I know them like the back of my hand. Or do I? As parents our hope is that we can guide and teach our children to grow into kind, responsible, confident young people. We focus on teaching them “our ways” of doing things, encouraging them to overcome adversity, and modeling what we think is important. Some of it seems to be getting through. Other things are missing the mark. When that happens, we are quick to try to “fix” the behavior/habit/struggle that they have. But how often do we take a step back and ask “why are you acting/responding/melting down?” Are they just being defiant, strong-willed, or even dramatic? Maybe. But it could be about something completely different. It could be something at a deeper, physiological level.
The more we meet with the staff here at TMC, the more we are studying our kids from a different angle. So much of what we see at home and don’t understand is starting to make sense. Why they do certain things or find simple tasks more difficult may actually be related to inefficiencies in their development. Who knew? I have been blown away so far by what I’ve been learning. It’s reminding me of the editing process of photography. For example, you take a picture of a baseball field. To everyone else it looks amazing. But when you load the image into your photo editing software, you start to pick the image apart. You zoom in on every part of the image and start noticing things you didn’t at first glance. The exposure could have been brighter, the shadows could be lifted, the color more vibrant. The original picture was good, but with a little tweaking, it could be even better. Piece by piece, you are able to make small changes to the image to make it brighter, more defined, enhanced. And once the editing is complete, you can step back and see how every little part molded together to make an even more beautiful photograph. People are like pictures. From the outside, we can look great, but when you look closer, you see things that need improvement. And this place is in the business of making small developmental changes in brains to make them work more efficiently. How these changes correlate to reading? I haven’t quite figured it out. But my friends have assured me to just trust the process and watch the pieces all come together.
I came here confident I knew my kids, but I have a feeling when I leave, I’ll be able to not only know them, but to understand them better. So go ahead TMC! Keep reminding me of all the ways my kids are amazing. Then show me how you will make them FEEL just as amazing for themselves.